Tuesday, September 8, 2020

19 months later...

 Wow, what a change the past 19 months have made to my life.  I didn't let on in my last post that my marriage to Alan had been and was back on rocky ground. Well it crashed and burned last summer and we have now been divorced for the past 9 months. It was difficult and scary being 60 years old and hoping to retire soon to make that decision knowing the impact it would have on my decision to retire and how I would survive after retirement. I also had to come to terms with the fact that the man I had married and that I thought I would always be with was no longer the same person. I had to let go knowing that the man I had loved was gone forever and this person he had become was toxic for myself and our family. Once the decision was made I started to find happiness, joy in life, and a purpose that was driven by my desires. We (as in the kids and myself) are all doing great. We have been fortunate that CoVid 19 did not impact us financially as of yet and do not think that it will. Abate is working for HEB in Abilene while attending Grad School. He is working on his MBA in Sports Management. Fantu is interning for a realtor while studying to get her license. It has worked well for her as 99% of what she does is from home via phone and computer. I still work at the Convention Center and while the bookings are down by close to 75% we are still open and operating and I have been assured that I will be here until the lights go out. 

Fantu and I have become quite close over the past year as she continues to live at home with me. We spend hours talking and laughing and just really having a good time. I just burst with happiness when she talks about how jealous some of her friends are at the relationship that we have. It is great having a daughter that is also a best friend.

So big changes in my life and it has all been for the best. I won't say it has all been roses but most days it has definitely been a garden!  

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